How To Be In Charge Of Your Life

We crave responsibility, yet in challenging moments that affect us, we often look for someone or something else to blame.

You can’t stick to your running routine because of bad weather.
You can’t cook fresh meals in the evening because your job keeps you working late.

But it goes deeper, to a level we might not even recognize.

That is, taking responsibility for ourselves.

Let’s take these examples:

• You can’t stay home and rest because your friend would be disappointed if you don’t join her at the cinema.

• You can’t say no to your mom and keep your boundaries because she’s done so much for you, and guilt would creep in.

What you’re doing here is giving responsibility away. Maybe disguised as good intention, but still.

Taking responsibility means you’ll sometimes displease others, and sometimes even yourself (like when you go for that run in the rain).

External responsibility is the easy task - at first sight.
If you do well, you get validation from outside.
But over time, you’ll cross your boundaries, deplete yourself, and burn out.

Internal responsibility is the hard part - but the sustainable one.
If you do well, you might face disappointment from others.
But you’ll keep your boundaries, build healthier relationships, and strengthen trust - in yourself and in others.

You might lose some people who relied on you for their wellbeing and validated you for managing it.

But you’ll gain new ones.
People who take accountability for themselves and respect your boundaries.
People who spend time with you simply because they want to, not because they need to.

That’s what being in charge truly means.

It’s your choice. Choose wisely.

Love,
Lexie.