Master the hardest, most precious life skill
We know a lot. We’re able to reflect on the past and experience the present. We learn to progress for the future.
But we don’t know the future.
We make plans, we have dreams. We get inspired and try to follow a path. A path into the unknown.
It’s like walking through the fog: you know where you’re coming from, you know where you are. Maybe you even have a desired destination. But you don’t know the path - or whether it will lead you there.
You can become laser-focused, tightening your grip, feeling in control - but that’s the point. You just feel in control. You aren’t.
You can’t be.
And the only thing that happens when you narrow your vision is that you might miss the crossroads. If you don’t look left and right, you might miss an important turn.
A redirection toward the destination you desire, or maybe one you can’t even imagine.
Because we dream and set expectations only around things we know or have heard of, never around what we don’t know.
How could we?
But maybe, the unknown would actually be much more suitable.
Maybe, if you knew, you’d desire that different outcome.
What you need - what we all need, honestly - is to embrace uncertainty.
To surrender to it.
That doesn’t mean not doing your best or giving up on your dreams.
It means loosening your grip. Keeping your vision wide. Your eyes open.
So you don’t miss the opportunity that’s waiting just off your planned path, the one you’ve never dreamt about but that could be meant for you.
So that when it comes, your hands are loose enough to let go of what you were chasing and gracefully take hold of something new.
After all, we only have this: trust.
Trust in ourselves. In life. In God. In whatever helps you trust, really.
We can’t control outcomes - that’s a lie we tell ourselves.
We believe it because action can lead to the desired outcome, and our mind sees that as validation. But in truth, it was more likely just what was meant to be.
This can be extremely hard to believe - when you suffer from an incurable condition, when you’re mistreated, when someone you love goes through something traumatic.
The problem is that we put trust and deserving on the same level.
Like: “Why do I deserve this?” or “Why me?”
It can feel like you don’t have control over getting a different outcome.
Maybe that’s true. Maybe not.
In the case of incurable conditions, it’s likely not in your hands. But what is in your hands is whether you live in sorrow - or make the best life you can. These moments can also bring enlightenment: absolute honesty about what you like and dislike, and the courage to live as aligned with yourself as possible.
I hope you don’t wait for a circumstance like this. That you choose alignment now, by choice, not by force.
Again, the only thing left is trust. Trust that there’s a reason.
Trust has carried me through my whole life. I don’t want to make this a blame game or a sob story, but let me just say - with my 29 years, I’ve experienced a lot. Myself, but also through those close to me. And as someone who’s AuDHD, I feel everything so intensely.
I suffer; I feel pain in my body, even when it’s not physical. Sometimes even when it’s not mine.
But I’ve always believed there’s a reason. I’ve always trusted.
And I truly believe that trust has carried me through everything in the best way possible.
I accepted. I learned. I experienced.
And it gave me: Compassion. Empathy. Patience. Strength. Endurance. Resilience.
Whatever positive personal trait you want to embody, it all comes down to this: trust.
It’s not just acceptance of what is. It’s not an excuse to stop trying.
It’s the foundation that gives rise to all these beautiful qualities - the ones essential for mental and emotional health.
So, how should we live life now?
I don’t have a concrete answer - I mean, who am I to tell you that?
But I can tell you what I believe in:
Doing as good as I can. Choosing actions that align with my values, my vision, and my authenticity.
And then - letting go. Trusting.
Living.
I hope this letter offered you something to reflect on, a reminder you needed, or a new perspective.
It’s a complex, sensitive topic. Maybe one you’re not ready to explore yet.
But if you do, it will be rewarding. It won’t give you all the answers, but it will give you something far more special:
A different kind of perspective.
A different kind of view.
A different kind of presence.
A sense of inner peace.
As always, know that you’re loved, no matter where you are right now.
Love,
Lexie.
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